student fights

[missmuslimah]

Hi everyone. Im a newbie, and I am soo glad I found this site. After reading some of the posts here I don't feel that alone anymore.
I'm a pre-school teacher.My students are between the ages of 3/5. My problem is that one of my kids (4 yr old) fights. Just blatantly hits/kicks/pushes and even bites sometimes other kids.
I've tried everything even letting him sit away form the other kids, but still whenever he comes into contact with them there's a fight.
Im at my wits end here. He's already been to three differnt schools before for the same reason. Is he a lost hope?

[busbus]

Hi everyone. Im a newbie, and I am soo glad I found this site. After reading some of the posts here I don't feel that alone anymore.
I'm a pre-school teacher.My students are between the ages of 3/5. My problem is that one of my kids (4 yr old) fights. Just blatantly hits/kicks/pushes and even bites sometimes other kids.
I've tried everything even letting him sit away form the other kids, but still whenever he comes into contact with them there's a fight.
Im at my wits end here. He's already been to three differnt schools before for the same reason. Is he a lost hope?

Have you talked with him to find out why he is so aggressive with his classmates. If he is angry - Why is he angry? What can you do to help him to control his anger?

Some boys are naturally aggressive and have yet to learn how to control this aggressiveness. Perhaps with the school's child psychologist, counselor and parents a behavioral plan can be developed to help this child to control his aggressiveness. But, first, try to find out from the child just what is triggering his aggressiveness. It could be that he feels that this is normal behavior based upon his home/neighborhood environment. He might be emulating older children. Or, as I said before, he just doesn't know how to control his aggressiveness. With a behavioral plan, you and others will help to teach him self-control and appropriate ways to interact with others.

[SiobhanMarie]

Yeah, I think there would have to be a reason the child is so violent, and perhaps when you find out, you can help implement some strategies to help them vent the frustration without hurting the other children.

[Bananas]

I would never give up on a child. The fact that this one is so young and has so much childhood ahead of him makes it even more important not to give up on him. Has the student had a complete physical by a medical professional recently? Is this student seeing a counselor? Is there a behavior plan in place? If the adults in this child's life give up, he surely will!

[Boxcar]

I think all the above comments are great.

i'd also suggest planning some Angry Activites for him. Tearing paper, hitting playdough, pounding pillows, ect. are all things you can teach the child. Try reading the Very Grouchy Ladybug with the class and talking about ways to feel less angry.

Acknowledge that it is okay to feel angry. We just need to find the right things to do with that anger.

ONe activity this child might enjoy is making snow cones. It is getting to be warm out, and the children can make this treat. For part of the activity, each child is given a bag of ice and a wooden block. They pound the ice with the block to crush it. A great way to release tensions and emotions.